The world is intrinsically dual in the nature. Whatever religion you follow, your theologies talk about God as well as Devils. The nights are long, but there are also long days as well. Rain is not permanent, it will stop raining and soon there will be shine. You are also in the same situation, you might be sad at the moment, however, soon, something will occur and you will become happy.
What is Happiness Exactly?
Happiness is not something that you can see or touch, happiness is a mental state, an emotional. You cannot see or touch happiness, but you can feel and experience happiness. Therefore, it is really hard to say what makes a person happy. Happiness depends on how your mind perceives things or situations. A certain thing or situation that makes you happy will not make you happy always. Once you liked this person very much, you were always happy to be in his company. Now, you find this person irritating, you are not happy to be with him. Thus, you can conclude that happiness is a transient feeling, a person or thing will never give you happiness.
It is true that happiness is a mental state, however, there is something more than this. In fact, happiness is affected by physical activities. Your husband gives you a diamond ring for your birthday, you are very happy. Diamond ring, a physical thing, made you happy. Well happiness is not always about receiving material things. In the morning you open your eyes, your wife kisses you. She walks to the window and draws curtain, morning sun peeps into the room. This makes you very happy.
How to Find Happiness in Life
It is really hard to say how you can find happiness in life. Happiness is a mental state and it is affected by your situation and mood. You can find happiness in simple thing such as having a cup of coffee when you want it most, get the job you always wanted, travel to the place, you always wanted to go and such more etc. The truth about happiness is it different for different people. A poor man will be happy with a house and car. However, the person who already has a house and car, wants different thing, thus, house and car are not his source of happiness.
True happiness is all about being contented with what you have. You already have iPhone 4, however, you crave for iPhone 6. You are unhappy. If you thing about all those people who do not have an iPhone or any other smartphone, you can find happiness.
There are many reasons to be happy. You open your eyes and look at your plants in the garden. Your dog wags tail and jumps on your lap. You visit your father and mother, they smile at you, you will have a reason to smile. Your wife brings you your morning tea, your wife just enters the house and you announce, “Honey dinner is ready.’
Happiness is a state of mind. Things and people do not make you happy; the feeling of contentment that derives from your mind makes you happy.
Happiness is transient. Things and people that make you happy at this moment could make you sad later. For instance, yesterday your boy/girlfriend made you happy, today you are separated and he/she irks you.
Pain like pleasure is a temporary condition. Today you are feeling pain, however, you will find pleasure tomorrow. It’s a dark night, however, it will be a day tomorrow and there will be light everywhere.
Happiness and sadness both are temporary situation. One moment you are happy and the very next moment you can become sad.
You are not happy because you don’t know what happiness is all about. You run after materials, but materials can never make you happy.
Possession and sense of entitlement will never make you happy. In fact, these are the causes of cravings, and cravings mean frustrations and sadness.
You must be happy with what you have and not with the things that you are craving.
Smile is an expression of happiness. The day you can smile without any reason, you will find true happiness.
Secrets of Happiness
Praise and celebrate life despite failures.
How profound is this statement that says so many things in few words.
Even if you fail, be grateful and praise and celebrate life. You will learn how to become happy.
Failure is a temporary situation. Failure does not last long. If failure is temporary, than success too, is impermanent. Success and failures are fleeting situations therefore they are just an illusion.
Contrarily, life is real, it is permanent state. Therefore, praise and celebrate life despite failures
Finding joy is the ultimate aim of human life. What ever we do, we do it to find pleasure and happiness. We study in a hope that we will find a good job some day and become happy. We fall in relationship because we expect some day we will live happily ever after.
Happiness is …
Enjoying nature: watch sunset, sun rise, rain hitting your window pane, a calm river, a raging sea.
Playing with kids: watch the children play, childhood innocence and simplicity make them always happy. If you are not a parent, you can watch neighborhood children, or children in the park.
Traveling: visit amazing places, meet wonderful people
Doing simple things: there is a pleasure in doing simple things; read a story book to a child, traveling to the country side; watch flowers in the garden. These kinds of simple things, will always boost your mood.
The list can go long.
Why Happiness Matters?
Why happiness matters? In another words, you do you need to be happy? What happens when you feel happiness, pleasure, joy; or, let me put this another away around, what is the result of happiness, pleasure, joy?
Happiness, pleasure and joy prompt creativity, efficiency, productivity, positivism, love, admiration, and compassion. Feeling happiness, pleasure, joy means you are more efficient, more productive, more creative, more positive, more loving, more admiring, and more compassionate.
A Hindu mantra says: If the world was not beautiful, why would gods come to live with us on earth.
The world is beautiful and happiness is all around.